Vlog 57 – Listen before speaking Hello my friend, I’m Victoria Bellido Durán, member of the Musical Group Flos Mariae, and today I want to give you my opinion about the subject that I entitled: “Listen before speaking”. My friend, don’t make the mistake of speaking before listening. Many fights and discussions begins after it, due to talk, pre-empting others, interrupting him/her, and that, more than a dialogue, it’s an attack. When one talks to you, often, more than an answer, what he/she expects it’s just to be listened, and by listening to him/her, the other one, by the very fact of telling you it, he/she can see his/her problem, his/her case, from another perspective, by the very fact of listening him/her, because the human being is social, and has the need to communicate, to tell his/her things to someone who is not himself/herself. My friend, listen, and set always a good example and give always good advices; if they come to you, exposing a problem, a situation, it is that they are interested in your opinion, they need your help. If this happens and they refer you a matter and you’re not clear about it, don’t be hasty in giving advices, give time to time!, say to your friend that you will think it well, that you will lead it to prayer, and that once you are clear about it, under the God’s laws, the civil laws and the common sense, you will give him/her a good answer. At all times and moment, be an instrument of God, of kindness and love. My friend, listen, pray, and then give your good advice. My friend, thank you. And always go ahead with faith. Victoria Bellido Durán |